Depending on what I wear, “the bump” is starting to show. Overall, I’m okay with this and actually find it fun (though hard to dress…), but interesting that I’ve found less support than I would have thought in regards to the scary side of being pregnant and becoming a mom. First of all, no one wants to talk about it – it’s seen as uncomfortable and almost taboo. I recently shared some very normal concerns with a girlfriend of mine and her response made my mouth drop… my feelings were completely disregarded and I was sternly reminded that I should be overjoyed for being able to experience this. Well, of course, I’m overjoyed! But does that mean that I’m not also scared or self-conscious…? Why do my personal feelings become non-existent as a part of this process? It’s baffling to me. So, taboo or not, here it is – pregnancy is wonderful, a complete and utter blessing, and scary as hell. There, I said it.
That said, I found a great book that openly addresses many of these common concerns: “Does This Pregnancy Make Me Look Fat?” by Claire Mysko and Magali Amadei. Don’t let the tongue-and-cheek title fool you, this is a serious conversation on fears, realities, and myths of pregnancy. I highly recommend it for anyone who’s pregnant, considering becoming pregnant, or has a pregnant friend. In particular, I recommend it for anyone who’s struggled with an eating disorder.
“If you’re like most expectant women, you’re worried about what pregnancy and motherhood will do to your body, your sexuality, and your self-esteem (even if you don’t want to admit it out loud for fear of the Bad Mommy Police). While the journey to motherhood is truly miraculous and brings forth life, it can also bring forth a myriad of legitimate concerns…beauty activists Claire Mysko and Magali Amadei, offer a much-needed forewarning on what to expect from your changing body, as well as a reality check for each stage of your pregnancy, exposing the myths, challenges, and insecurities you’ll face throughout pregnancy and beyond—and what to do about them.'”